" I was twenty seven when I first met P. He was with someone else at that time. We moved in together when I was thirty two. Then I had K when I was thirty six, I had R at thirty eight."

" Really? Wow."

" Yeah, so you got plenty of time."

" Well, not according to my mom. But I'm in no hurry, I still have lots of other things I wanna do before marriage and have a kid."

" Yes, take your time. Don't get married just for the sake of marriage. I never get married, I am with P for forty years now, but we never bothered to get married."

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就这样,我跟一位七旬老人边走边聊天。很难想象,她跟她爱人在一起,养育了两个孩子,却从未结婚,也不曾提过婚姻,但两个人一起携手走了四十年了,不曾分离。

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换作现在的年轻人,都不知道分分合合好多次了。我身边的朋友,大多数也是经历了很多分分合合才结合到一起的。有时会遇到一些年轻人,喜欢了就在一起,生了孩子不合,就分开。结婚、离婚,不断轮回,我都不知道他们把婚姻当作了什么,仿佛招之即来挥之即去……

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我也不知道自己什么时候会走进婚姻的殿堂,以及是否会走进婚姻的殿堂,但是婚姻于我而言,比较神圣,得慎重考虑。如果不是真的爱一个人,那么我宁愿不结婚。也许人们会说,那是你年龄还没有到时候,所以不懂得妥协,当你到了一定年纪后,肯定也会想要找个人搭伙过日子的,否则多寂寞孤单……

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其实,我早已经过了中国家长眼中的结婚年龄,我妈n妈也不知催了我好多年了,可是我倔,不肯妥协,现在还在异国他乡漂泊着。未来于我,完全属于未知,有太多的不确定性,但那又怎样?日子不也继续过吗?

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