人一生中什么最重要？“龙虾教授”谈人生与幸福，潸然泪下(视音频+中英全文)

原创： 乐活英伦 乐活英伦 3天前

2019年8月25日

对你来说，人生中最重要的目标是什么？事业有成？自由无束？还是简单快乐就好？

著名心理学教授、文化评论家“龙虾教授”Jordan Peterson提出，幸福这种东西太虚无缥缈，只可不期而遇，不能刻意追求。你怎么看呢？

一向强硬的Jordan Peterson动情落泪，诉说他心目中最重要的人生追求…

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Jordan Peterson谈人生追求与来自乐活英伦00:0004:04

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It shouldn't be our life goal, because there are times inyour life when you're not going to be happy. And then what are you going to do?Your goal is demolished. And there are going to be plenty of times in your lifewhen you're not happy, there might be years. And so it's a shallow boat in avery rough ocean.

我们不该把开心幸福当作人生目标，因为生活中总有不如意的时刻。那这些时刻怎么办呢？岂不是失去了人生意义吗？何况生活中大部分的时刻，都是不如意的，可能会持续很长时间，就像是茫茫大海中的一叶小舟。

And it's based upon a mis-conceptualization. Happiness issomething that descends upon you. Everyone knows that, you know. It comes uponyou suddenly, and then you should be grateful for it, because there's plenty ofsuffering. And if you happen to be happy, well, wonderful. Enjoy it. Begrateful for it. And maybe try to meditate on the reasons that it manifesteditself, right.

所谓的追求快乐，是基于一种错误的概念。快乐是可遇而不可求的。大家都很清楚这个道理。突然某天，快乐降临到你头上，你应该心存感激。因为苦难本该是生活的主旋律。而你恰好是个幸运儿，收获了快乐。那真的很难得，好好享受，心怀感恩，并用心想一想幸福的原因。

Because it can come as a mystery, you know. You don'tnecessarily know when you're gonna be happy. Something surprising happens and delightsyou. And you can analyze that, you can think, well I'm doing something right. I'min the right place right now. I've done something right. Maybe I can hang on tothat. Maybe I can learn from that.

因为幸福快乐就像个谜，没有人知道什么时候会降临。有时候一些突如其来的惊喜，瞬间就让你很开心。你就可以自己分析，我现在做的是对的事情，现在真的是天时地利，我做了正确的事。或许可以继续这么做，或许可以从中学到什么。

What you should be pursuing instead is, well there's twothings. You should be pursuing who you could be, that'd be the first thing. It'slike because you're not who you could be, and you know it. You have guilt andshame and regret. And you berate yourself for your lack of discipline and yourprocrastination and all your bad habits. You know perfectly well that you'renot who you could be. And God only knows who you could be. And so that's howyou should be strive, that's what you should be striving for.

我们要追求的其实有两个方面。我们要追求，做最好的自己。这是第一点。大家心里都清楚，还没有完全活出最好的自己。心中自责、羞愧、悔恨交织在一起，甚至会责备自己，不够自律、拖延症严重、坏习惯一身。大家都知道，自己可以做得更好。但只有上帝知道，最好的你是怎样的。所以必须坚定信念，通过自己的努力去实现。

And associated with that. You should be attempting toformulate some conception of the highest good that you can conceive of, thatyou can articulate, because why not aim for that? It's like your life is short,and it's troublesome, and perhaps you need to do something worthwhile with it.

与这一点相辅相成，大家也要勇于树立一些概念，去追求你自己概念中的最高标准，挑战自己的极限。为什么不试一试呢？人生苦短，只来走这一遭，所以要做一些有意义有价值的事。

And if so, then you should do the most worthwhile thing, andyou should figure out what that is for you. And part of that's definitely goingto be to develop your character as much as possible, to dispense with thoseparts of you that are unworthy. And then maybe if you're fortunate, and you dothat carefully, then happiness will descend upon you from time to time. Andthat's the best you've got.

要做最有价值的事，首先就要弄清楚，什么对你来说是最有价值的。其中一个不可或缺的部分，就是尽可能地培养自己的品质，摈弃你身上所有不值得推崇的。如果你足够幸运，也足够认真改正缺点，那幸福总会降临的，只是时间早晚而已。这便是生活赋予我们最好的礼物。

And then also perhaps during sorrowful times, or worse, eviltimes, the fact that you've strengthened your character and, that you're aimingat the highest that you can conceptualize, that'll give you the moral fortitudeto endure without becoming corrupted during those times, and to be someone whocan be relied upon in a crisis.

也许在一些悲伤的时刻，或是令人绝望的糟糕时刻，你不断培养出的坚强品格和追求卓越的习惯，会让你拥有坚韧不拔的品质，让你不在低潮中沉沦，并且成为在危机时刻中可依靠的人。

There's a name, you know, one of the things I've told myaudiences, the young guys take to this a lot, I said, you should be thestrongest person at your father's funeral, right. Well that's something namefor. It's a transition, the generational transition. And it means that, to allthe people around you are suffering, because of their loss, they have someoneto turn to, who can illustrate by their behaviour, that the force of characteris sufficient to move you beyond the catastrophe. And you need that.

我经常提到一个概念，我常常在演讲中跟我的观众说，尤其是年轻观众，我说，“要做自己父亲葬礼上最坚强的那个人。”这是我们要努力的目标。这是一种世世代代的变迁。这意味着，对那些悲痛中的人来说，他们在缅怀亲人的时候，你能成为他们的依靠。你能通过自己的行动，向他们证明，坚强的内心，可以帮你度过难关。这是每个人都需要的。

And that's a great thing to, that's a great thing to hypothesizeas your aim. And happiness just evaporates as irrelevant in light of that sortof conceptualization.

所以最理想的情况是，把这种强大，化为自己的目标。把这样的概念，内化于心。对幸福，也就慢慢能看开了。

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